This moment broke my heart—and taught me everything.

I wanted to share a moment from this past week that humbled me—as both a parent and a parent coach.

My son missed an important class. He simply... forgot. When I found out, my first reaction was immediate: frustration, disbelief—and yes, I yelled. Even as someone who teaches emotional regulation, sometimes the reflex kicks in before the skills do.

But after I yelled, I paused. Took a breath. I reminded myself of what I know to be true: behavior is communication.

So I went back to him—not with more correction, but with curiosity. And what I found out broke my heart a little: he had gotten sick at school that day. Nauseous, uncomfortable, and scared. 

But he didn’t tell anyone. Why? Because he knew I was working. He didn’t know who would pick him up. He didn’t want to cause a problem.

This wasn’t about forgetting. It was about holding too much, alone.

We had a long talk. I apologized. He did too. We repaired. And in that moment, I was reminded that my ability to regulate—to come back after a rupture and choose connection over control—is everything.

I'd love to share these important reminders—not just as a parent coach, but as a fellow parent learning in real-time.

• Behavior is communication

• Kids don’t always have the language to express big emotions

• Respond with curiosity instead of control

Our kids’ behavior isn’t always what it seems. Sometimes, it’s a whisper for help in a language we have to slow down to understand.

If you're ready to take your parenting to the next level, or feel stuck in your parenting journey, message me directly or a book a free Parenting Roadmap call.

Best,
Dr. Sarita